Sunday, October 30, 2005

Language of the heart

Gratitude on learn to speak the language of the heart with fluency. on 43 Things:

The realization that all inharmony is unreal brings objects and thoughts into human view in their true light, and presents them as beautiful and immortal. Harmony in man is as real and immortal as in music. Discord is unreal and mortal.

Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures by Mary Baker Eddy

Saturday, October 29, 2005

DAB: Removed to Ultrasound Comment Section

Not sure how to delete a message which should have been posted in another spot, so please forgive the newbie blogger and let me know the proper procedure. Thanks and HAND-pda

And the chief captain answered, With a great sum obtained I this freedom. And Paul said, But I was [free] born.
Acts 22:28

For in him we live, and move, and have our being; as certain also of your own poets have said, For we are also his offspring.
Acts 17:28

Holy Bible, King James Version, read by Alexander Scourby

Science is Positive

See new entry at One easy way to do this: on encourage other people on 43 Things

Trying out the BlogThis! button for the first time from 43Things :) Thanks for posting my previous message to the Blog, BW. I'm thrilled to finally be here and hope to make a positive contribution to the team! Enjoy the weekend and...

Vayan con Dios, Amigos ~

When a new spiritual idea is borne to earth, the prophetic Scripture of Isaiah is renewedly fulfilled: “Unto us a child is born, . . . and his name shall be called Wonderful.”

Jesus once said of his lessons: “My doctrine is not mine, but His that sent me. If any man will do His will, he shall know of the doctrine, whether it be of God, or whether I speak of myself.” (John vii. 16,17.)

Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures by Mary Baker Eddy

Wonderful Things are Happening!

Thursday, October 27, 2005


I had the most delightful experience yesterday. Funny thing is, tons of frustration and anxiety led up to it.

I awoke yesterday at 5:00 a.m. -- I could not sleep anymore. My body was filled with tension and anxiety. I had a doctor's appointment for an ultrasound, just to make sure everything was going well with my pregancy. Because of my earlier miscarriage, I was so anxious. How would I deal with the ultrasound showing that my baby wasn't well or-- even worse-- not alive anymore? I didn't think that I would be able to handle it. These thoughts would run through my head, making me anxious and sick to my stomach.

I talked to my husband about it. He acknowledged my fears but then told me that he just knew that the baby was okay. It amazes me at his complete and total faith. As much as he tried to comfort me, it didn't really help. I was so caught in the tangle of fear that I couldn't get out.

My appointment was at 10:15. I was supposed to be there at 9:45 to fill out all my paperwork. Arriving promptly, I filled everything out and then sat there with my loving husband. And then we sat. And sat some more. We watched women go in and out and in and out-- people who came after I did went in before us. Finally, at 11:15 (a FULL HOUR) after my appointment, we were called into the ultrasound room.

As she asked me to lay down, my heart was racing and my hands were clammy. Now was the moment of truth-- would my baby be okay? Would I have a great day or another devastating day? She squirted the warmed gel on my stomach and started moving the ultrasound device around. I wanted to close my eyes and keep them open at the same time. My husband grasped my hand as we both looked up at the monitor. I could feel his tension and excitement. I am sure that he could feel mine.

Then, suddenly, up popped this little head and this little body, moving and squirming and pushing and just wriggling around. My baby was fine. In fact, it was moving so much, the technician even commented on it. It has a working heart and kidneys and stomach and brain. We saw its face and a foot with five wonderfully perfect toes. My husband even saw its fingers. It was moving around so much, the technician could not determine the sex. That is fine with me! I am just absolutely ecstatic that it is alive and well and VERY active.

All of a sudden a sense of calm has almost overwhelmed me. I am sure that all things are good and are going to go well. We were able to videotape this ultrasound, so, whenever I worry, I will be able to pop the tape in and see my wonderfully squirmy baby, pushing against the ultrasound device.

We have another ultrasound in 2 weeks. Because I am considered "at risk" I will probably be having them at least once every 4 weeks. It was one of the most joyful days of my life. And to think, it started out as one of the most negative.

Wednesday, October 26, 2005


Hello Broken Wings,

PenneArdICS replied to your comment in which you said:
> Hello ((penneardics))
> Sorry I have not been in touvh too much lately. Hey, I still like my
> Giraffe ears, but they have not grown much (my wife can tell ya...LOL)
> Anyway, just wanted to get a word out to ya for a safe Wilma
> landing...I don't think it is going to affect us much here in central
> Florida, but I pray that it does not cause too much more havock than
> what it ahs already caused in Mexico, the islands and Cuba... Still
> have several positions open for volunteers willing to spark postings
> at the Positive Blog. Let me know and I can resend an invite (you can
> even post from 43things once you are in... there is only 2 of us that
> are still somewhat active, but it has dwindled.. Ay caramba! Bueno,
> asi es la vida, anyway, stay safe and dry this weekend! Dios te
> Bendiga! :)

Their reply was:

Hola {{Broken Wings}}
Here's something positive for the blog -- we are extremely grateful to
have been spared from the wrath of Wilma here in central Florida! Those
in her path are in our prayers this week. Muchas gracias for your notes,
Amigo -- I would be thrilled to contribute to your project as time
allows, but was under the impression that all the slots had been filled.
That's why I wasn't surprised at not receiving a formal invitation to
participate. Sorry to hear it never made it to the intended destination.
Yes, if there's room for one more, please send another invite to my
Inbox (you may have noticed that I recently added you to my Buddy list
on MSN if you need a reminder of the address - look for the Leia icon.)
I've been curious to see the team work you've got going, and I'm
especially glad to know that we have the capability of posting to the
Positive Blog from 43T (I can use all the time-savers and conveniences I
can get these days!) Giraffes 'R' Us (Makes me wonder if the founder of
the toy company was also an NVC supporter -- Geoffrey says, Have Fun,
Not War!) ¡Salud! :)

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Wednesday, October 19, 2005


Thank you for relaxing some of the rules. I was worried that I would not be able to participate anymore because I haven't been able to write much.

Currently I am sleeping about 10 hours a day-- the baby is just really tiring me out. When I am awake, I frantically try to get everything done for my job as a high school English teacher. This includes creating meaningful lesson plans and grading tons of essays. To top it off, I have to take a class that is occupying my Monday nights. It is all I can do to keep my head above water.

Because of having to prioritize, I figure keeping my job and my teacher certification is a smidge more important than posting here. Please be patient with me. Hopefully things will be a little bit less hectic at work and I will be able to post again.

Thank you,

Thursday, October 13, 2005


I think, to remain positive when things go well is not a big deal... To maintain that same positive attitude when things seem to have gone to, or to be going to hell, that is the real challenge. It is even more of a challenge in some circumstances that in others. However, I have found out, in my years of life and living that if I trust the God of my understanding with all of my heart, soul, mind and strength that things not only develop the way they are supposed to, but they work always for the best. All I have to do, is let God be who He is, and get out of the way.

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Tuesday, October 11, 2005

Agenda is a great topic!

Hello Good Man. Hello everybody!
Thanks for your response. Format?
Sure. Thank You for asking!
I believe more of you have asked as well, so here it is... OK as I promised, we would ease up and modify some of the rules of the game, so that we all can still rfemain in the same page... These are being modified this October 17th of 2005...

1. As long as we are willing to get together with the rest of the team at least once a week, to say hello and tell us that you, meaning anyone here, is alive, well, and checking the place out, you will be in. We have not heard from some of you most recently, but we have met most, if not all of us by now. You all are great people, regardless of wether you post little or much.
2. We will not tolerate lurkers after a reasonable period of time.(Posting at least once a month I guess is a reasonable expectation...).
We understand about being busy, but if you signed up just to sign up, then eventually "the boot" (getting dismissed from the Blog Team) will fall heavily upon you. What is a reasonable period of time? Well, If you mean well, if you are learning something and if you are real busy with other activities of life and living...that period might be longer for you than for others...
Please understand this blog is now a collaborative project. If you are serious about contributing your best, it will show, If, for some reason you decide you do not want to participate, that is fine too, but let the rest of us know...

Please Understand we are not just talking to you directly but to all of us in general.

3. No one will do any editing of anybody else's posts, unless it is something having to do with profanity, sexual connotation, sexual harassment or anything else that would be grounds for disciplinary action at any site on the internet, or out in the real world in general. This goes for the ladies as well. We are an equal volunteering employer...LOL

4. If you want to be promoted to Administrator of the blog, you need to prove yourself trustworthy not only of ourselves, but the rest of the team. We will be narrowing down the administrative team and perhaps bringing aboard from within our ranks those that would like to participate in a more active fashion. We know some of you lead hectic, busy lives, so we can accomodate to that. We also get busy with our lives, and we too need to make a living, so we can understand fairly well being busy with life things...

5. Posting a minimum of once a month continues to be the norm. Attending team meetings is not as long as you are not just lurking. We understand being busy, and if you need to accomodate extra time for your self we can understand.

6. The main thing is to have fun, relax, get to know each other and believe in what the team is all about.

7. We come from different backgrounds and experiences and we've all been burnt (hurt)before. I think we all know what I am talking about. If you don't, please ask somebody. So, as long as we practice the Golden Rule with one another and with the world outside we should remain cool in the midst of the storm. I mention the Golden Rule because it is a very Universal one and all of us can understand it.

8. Eventually, if we all follow simple, easy to follow directions, we will reap the benefits of teamwork, thinking , sharing, and cooperation.

9. If we have not touched upon a rule that you think it is important for the safety and well being of all of us here involved, please email one of the contributing members, post it, or let Ed (aka Broken Wings) know one way or another, and if it is sensible enough we can incorporate it into these starter ones.

10. Ed, aka Broken Wings has been working the blog in the background now for a while. He really needs at least one other person to help him continue to improve the infraestructure of the blog:
Please understand these positions would not be paid, but if we all pitch in a bit here and there, I trully believe we can teke us all to the top!

11. We reserve the right to dismiss anyone that does not follow the directions here stated. But, we are reasonable and capable of constructive dialogue, we have been just trying to lay down "the law" so that there is no yeah-buts later.

12. If you stick around long enough like some of you have already, not just here, but else where, you will see that... Every day, in Every way...Thru the Grace of our Creator.. we will get better and better. Our friend Stan posted something regarding this wonderful affirmation that Emile Coue first thought about.

13. These rules were written and today modified for the benefit of all of us. If you feel something needs to be added and/or deleted, please continue to let us know.

14. As time goes by, this blog can and will incorporate people from different countries, cultures, backgrounds and upbringing, but for now we will continue were we are.

Blog membership is not open to the public. If you have been a contributing member of and would like to participate in the posting or the decission making of our B+ team, please get together with one of us so we can perhaps bring you in. The most important requirement is that you be a member of 43 Things and are in good standing with that site.

15. If you have any questions, Please ask me or somebody. Ok? ;)

Thanks and...
God Bless You!
Peace and Love!
May the Force be with You!
(Your salutation and farewell goes here!)

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Monday, October 10, 2005

When Fear Cripples

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, " I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along ." . . . You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
- Eleanor Roosevelt

About eight years ago I had a particularly bad series of events involving car accidents. Within a year and a half I was in three accidents...all of them almost 6 months to the day of each other. One accident is bad enough....but was bad.
The first was during a snow storm. My brother's birthday was the next day so I rushed out to the store to pick up the item I had been waiting till th last minute to get. While I was in the store it began to snow. Normally that wouldn't be a problem, living in New England you learn quickly how to drive in bad weather. The store I was at however as at the top of a very steep hill and surrounded by busy streets. I had an old Volvo with semi-bad tires and the snow was still sand on the road, no plow had been by yet.
As I crept over the top of the hill on the long four lane driveway and edged my way down the slippery pavement I suddenly saw my worst fear. A car had spun out and sat sideways completely blocking my lane. The driver had shut off his car, gotten out and was looking at his front tires. In the lane to my direct left was another car and in each of the two lanes coming up the hill was a car. I couldn't possibly swerve into another lane without causing another accident. My only out was to turn hard to the right and try to jump the curb and go down another steep hill into a parking lot about 30 feet below. So as I picked up speed sliding faster and faster towards the other car I did just that. To my surprise though the curb was too high and instead of removing myself from the potential accident I in fact spun out sideways and slid down even faster to hit the stopped car lengthwise.
Six months later I was on my way to work one morning. I had a cold and was continually having to blow my nose so I kept a tiny box of kleenex within easy reach. I was an assistant manager of a pet store at that time so I was in a hurry to get to work and open up for the day. In front of me for almost the entire drive was a particularly elderly gentleman in a mini van who was very careful to remain within the exact speed limit. Every block or so he would brake to slow back down to 35mph. I kept a good two car distance between us just because he made me nervous and the last thing I wanted was another accident. As we kept our slow and steady pace I cranked up my radio in an attempt to destress myself. Suddenly I needed a kleenex. I reached down to where I kept them but couldn't find the box. I felt around some more...still nothing. Finally in desparation I looked down and grabbed one. In that instant the man in front braked yet again and in the micro seconds that I started to look back up, I hit him full force. Totalling my car, sending me to the hospital and putting me out of work for a couple of weeks.
Double **SIGH**
Fast forward yet another six months. My then boyfriend and I were taking some people home after church. A young teenager from the church youth group and my friend. I had organized us by who would be getting out first. So the teenager was in the front seat and my friend and I were in the backseat of his tiny hatchback. As we all laughed and talked we came to the street of the first drop off. Suddenly from behind a car full of teenagers careened into us at full speed miraculously stopping just short of encasing my friend and I into the back seat.
Triple **SIGH**
After those accidents I didn't drive for two years. I was too afraid to. I didn't even like getting into a car with others. When I did get in a car it was with much apprehension and constant fear of every little thing. I changed jobs to a store that was on a direct bus route and avoided going out with people other than my boyfriend as much as possible, and walked as many places as I could. I was living in a prison of fear. It was understandable of course....those things were traumatic experiences for me so when I told people I didn't drive and explained why they understood and sympathized. One woman I worked with was even in the same place and stopped driving years earlier because her sister had been killed tragically in a car.
Over time however I began to miss the degree of freedom I had once had. I missed being able to just pick up and go for a drive in the country or not having to wait in two feet of snow for an extra 45 minutes because the bus was running behind. I saw the woman I worked with through new eyes. She was about 30 years older than me and she had become completely dependent on others because of her fear and I didn't want to end up like that. I had come to the point that I was time. I had to face my fear head on with no looking back.
It was terrifying at first....and I drove like a 95 year old for a while....but each time I got behind that wheel it got easier. Eventually I reached the point that the fear was totally gone.

Fear comes in many shapes and sizes.....but whatever it is that you fear, I pray you get to the point that you can face it head on and say, "I have lived through this terror, I can take the next thing that comes along."


Monday, October 03, 2005

The Impact of Silence

"It's good to shut up sometimes."
Marcel Marceau

A rather interesting quote from a man who was made famous because of his silence, don't you think? Makes me wonder about the lessons he must have learned from being so silent and just watching and listening. As I read it I was reminded of an experience we had at our street ministry a little over a year ago. Two of our regular volunteers are a sweet, newly married couple who have great hearts of service and desparately want to serve their God with all that they have. However, at times I have seen pride cause them to struggle with an intense aversion towards a lot of the very people we minister to. I am always asking God to break through that pride and other mental or emotional garbage with them and show them how He sees these poor and homeless people. After all, these people that are so different than what we're used to, are in fact, the entire reason we are out there. They need someone, anyone, to show them love and acceptance in a wounded lonely life where they have had none.

I always love the fact that God is so gentle with us and even has a sense of humor. We tend to lash out and correct or judge harshly making a scene and leaving wounds in the hearts of others all in the name of justice. God is so opposite though. Like any loving father, He tends to discipline in creative ways that He knows will get our attention, and make the lesson stick. This was definitely one of those lessons.

On this particular Saturday, I was behind the table serving soup and the husband of this couple was standing next to me serving the drinks which consist of water and in warm weather iced tea. This was a beautiful warm day so the water was especially in demand. As I waited for the next person in line to reach me, I glanced over to see one of our regular ladies approaching the drinks. She is only about 35, about the same age as this newly married couple, and has a very sweet and childlike spirit due to severe mental illness.

Additionally, heavy medication tends to make her talk to herself a lot....and loudly. Usually though, the things she says keep us all laughing because they are the things a 5 year old would say, blunt and yet, innocent.

She has very curly hair, which she usually lets go fuzzy. She wears every piece of jewelry she has ever owned and odd clothing combinations as well as about five layers of nail polish, all of which are chipped and peeling. She's always so bubbly though that you can't help but smile at her when she comes by. I watched as she approached the table quietly muttering to herself, and then I suddenly felt a twinge in my stomach because I knew who would be handing her the water. I quickly looked at him just in time to see him scanning her up and down and curling his lip at her current state. I was so hurt inside I wanted to lash out at him and tell him to get off the serving line if he couldn't treat her with respect. However, inside my heart I heard God tell me to keep quiet and watch what would happen next.

Just then as I saw her reach for a cup and he pulled his hand away, her muttering became audible for all of us to hear. I watched in amazement as she looked him square in the eye and quoted him the Bible verse, "..And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones because he is my disciple, I tell you the truth, he will certainly not lose his reward." Just then she took a sip and walked away and was gone for the day.

I wanted to start crying as I watched his eyes get big and follow her as she disappeared into the crowd. God is sooooooooo GOOD, and He always gets His point across far better than we ever could. Had I lashed out at him, I would have set a bad example for all the people around me, both behind and in front of the table. I wouldn't have gained anything, but instead, would have lost the trust and respect of so many who need us to be gentle with them, and learn from our example. I also wouldn't have made the point to this young man as well as God was able to, through the gentle ramblings of the very one who should have been offended by his actions the most.

Sometimes it truly is good to shut up and wait and to let God fight our battles for us. A misplaced word can illicit the effect of a bowling ball on a glass top table…sending shards of glass everywhere that can never be fixed or replaced…and some never even to be found. I'm glad I kept my mouth shut that day, and avoided those shards. I'm not always so successful however, but at least now I know if I can learn the art of well placed silence, I can avoid many regrets for years to come. Besides, God really does handle those situations so much better than we would.


Sunday, October 02, 2005

On Love and Effective Communication...

I have been following Ms. Aleta Pippin’s Authentic Entrepeneur’s Wisdom now for a while…
This week’s topic really hits a cord with Learning to speak the language of the heart, so I thought I would share with you.
The writing struck a cord with me, as I read about this lady communicating to her daughter more than her words…Her tone of voice and demeanor probably painted psycological stage for her daughter that will last for years to come…
Here are, in her words, some questions to ask ourselves when we communicate with other human beings, specially the little ones!...
“To become more effective in your communication, ask yourself these questions before communicating.

1. Why am I communicating this?
2. Will it help the other person?
3. Does it help to resolve a problem?
4. Will I feel better having shared?
5. Am I considering the other person’s feelings?

If you decide to share, a good idea is to consider how best to communicate your real feelings or thoughts without attacking the other person. The best way is with “I” sentences. “I feel frustrated when…”
She then explains that ourt reality is that all of us wants to feel loved and respected for who we are, and that it is extremely important we ask ourselves these questions before we engage the mouth…
I encourage you to go read on Ms. Pippin’s weekly power thoughts and enhance your business ans well as your personal life with her Power thinking and Wisdom unlimited.

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